When Did Motherhood Become Competitive?

How many times have we heard and said “I feel like a bad mom because I’m not making all of the crafts on Pinterest and cutting my kids sandwiches into heart shapes.” Why are we so focused on what we’re not doing rather focusing on all that we are doing? Why do we do this?

When I look back on my childhood, I am reminded of my mom taking time to be present in our daily lives. During the summers, when school was out, she would make a list of chores and have my brother, sister, and me play several games of Uno. Whoever won the most games got to pick which chores they wanted to do first. She didn’t just hand us our list of jobs to be done, but instead she made it fun. We have good memories of doing housework together because chose to take 30 minutes out beforehand and play a game.

And you know what? She didn’t have Pinterest to give her ideas!

comparisonI guess my point is this: We all do things for our kids they will always look back on and remember. So those moms on Pinterest are crafting and cooking with their kids? Who cares! Maybe you are doing something with your kids that those other moms haven’t thought of. Don’t discount the memories you are making reading books, singing together in the car, giving baths, and doing household chores together. It all matters. Be present in their daily lives and make them feel loved and cherished in your own way. Chances are they will remember the day to day, ordinary things, rather than the extraordinary, one time craft that you did together.

Mamas do too much for their children to focus on what they aren’t doing. Rather than comparing yourself to others, focus on your own family and build your own happiness.