Learning to Let Him Lead

The other day I was talking with my sister about various things going on in our lives and various decisions we’ll have to make in the future. Our conversation turned to the fact that sometimes we don’t always agree with our husbands on these decisions. (I realize I’m being fairly vague, but really, what we were talking about isn’t the point.) What do we do when we don’t agree? It’s tough.

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My husband and I agree on most all of the big life decisions – good thing considering how we are married and all. I feel like we really work together in our life and talk things through. If we don’t agree right away, many times after a day or two we revisit the conversation and we can see each other’s point of view. If that doesn’t happen, though, it’s hard. I hate disagreeing with him.

My sister and I ultimately agreed that when these situations arise, we have to let our husbands lead.

We, as wives, are called to be in submission to our husbands. That’s right, I said the “s” word. Our society tends to shy away from submissive wives, but I believe that’s due to the fact that it is a misunderstood concept. I {try to} submit to my husband, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have a voice. We are a team. We make decisions together. He values my opinion, and I value his. I’m his helper. Most of the time, we are on the same page and submission is easy.


Every now and then we have a differing opinion of a decision we’ll be faced with one day. Although we can see the other’s point of view, we still hold our respective opinions as being best.

In these situations, I have to let him lead. He is my husband, the leader of my home. I have to trust that he is making his decision after much time spent in prayer and thought. I have to trust that he is making a decision he believes will truly be beneficial to our family. I have to let him lead.

“For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.”
Ephesians 5:23-24

What about you?
Are there times in your marriage when you yield to your husband, even when it’s hard?